Why are you building a kayak? That’s the usual question. Even people who know me fairly well have asked that. If I were restoring a 1968 Camero, they wouldn’t ask that. This is different. It makes me look like a boat nerd or something.
I’ve always loved creative things that involve a start-to-finish process. My first love was photography. I set-up my first darkroom when I was eleven and even worked as a professional photo tech for awhile. The act of picking a film type/speed, taking the photo, developing the negatives (always sort of a challenge), then choosing the best shots, exposing and developing test prints, then creating the finished product was absolutely awesome. That’s pretty much lost now and I don’t miss it. The first (and last) time I destroyed a roll of negatives at work made me think, “Gee, wouldn’t it be cool if all of this was stored magnetically, magically somewhere I couldn’t dump a glass of water on and ruin?”
Back to why. I always struggled with school. My standardized test scores put me in the top 3%, but my ability to stand for the “I talk, you sit and listen” approach to education was low. It wasn’t for me. I have always needed to touch, manipulate, envision, create, destroy and produce. This is a common problem for males. Our current education system caters to the more feminine, verbal, connection style of learning and boys find themselves sitting at a desk in the hallway for being “disruptive”. We’d do well to separate boys and girls in school and teach them differently rather than punish one set and call them “bad” and point to the other as “good”. They’re just different. I don’t say this flippantly or with anger towards girls and women. I say it with sympathy for all the little boys who suffered like me. I was almost tossed out of school in 1st grade and tried to leave high school as a sophomore by getting into an apprenticeship program in photojournalism at a local newspaper.
Ironically, after casting about in college, studying just about everything, I went on to be a middle and high school math teacher, but, again, found it really difficult to exist within the education system. I had many students who told me I was the best teacher they’d ever had and was offered a full-time position at SF’s prestigious Lowell High School a couple years after student-teaching and subbing there, but it wasn’t for me.
What the heck does all that have to do with building a kayak? Everything. It is through the end-to-end process of creation that I learn things, that I meditate, relax and feel good about myself and the world. Thank goodness Jeannie, my wife, gets this. She often listens intently to me and says, “My god, no wonder you’re tired – you think about everything all the time.” So, a project like this is the ultimate escape and centering experience for me.
A bit more about me. The following is my response to one of those Facebook chain-letter type things that all your FB friends do, and get you to do as well, called “25 Random Things About Me”.
1) When I was very young (5??), my grandmother snapped at me for adding and subtracting backwards. I still do that and I can do basic math faster than most people I know.
2) As a child, my job preferences were spy, stunt car driver or under-water demolition expert. My mother insisted I had a death wish.
3) I am attracted to women who like to cook and am now married to a pastry chef.
4) I am afraid of heights.
5) I put together my first photo darkroom when I was 11 yrs old. My first trial, I forgot to dilute the stop bath and all my photos came out a spectacular shade of pee yellow.
6) I cry easily during the emotional parts of movies. Stanley Kubrick and Ridley Scott are my favorite directors and I cried when HAL got unplugged in 2001 (just kidding about that last part).
7) I wish I had 5 children and lived on a farm. As it turns out, I have 1 child, 3 grown-up step-kids and live in the coastal suburbs. Close enough!
8 ) I love my wife dearly and have finally found the best friend I looked for all of my life. I mean that. There’s nothing better then getting to be yourself in your marriage and having your spouse still think you’re cool, still care about you and want to kiss your face.
9) I’m a neat freak, though I create messes. After I create the messes, I spend hours reorganizing and tidying, labeling, boxing, painting, patching…perhaps this is more OCD than neatness?
10) I manage my life with checklists. I admire people who don’t have to make lists, but I suspect I get a lot more done than they do. Check!
11) I’ve eaten snake. It was very good, but the snake bile liquor we drank with it made us all very drunk.
12) My son is awesome, but he needs to stop worrying so much about what people think of him. Isn’t that the trick in life? He’ll figure it out eventually and in the meantime, I hope he doesn’t give a damn that I worry about this aspect of him.
13) Of all the places I’ve lived, Des Moines, Iowa is by far the best. I miss it and will move back there some day, regardless of the arctic winters, spring floods and summer humidity. The 35 days of fall make it worth it.
14) Though I’ve had many great cats, I’m really a dog person. Dogs bring out the best in us, remind us of our duties, our promises and love us even when we forget about those things. I particularly like herding dogs, their intensity and workaholic nature, but I’m getting to like the tenacity and humor of terriers, thanks to my current pooch.
15) I would never have suspected, in my youth and even into college, that I would love business as much as I do.
16) Life is like baseball. It’s about getting hits and getting on base. The rest takes care of itself. People obsessed with home runs miss the point.
17) It seems to me that we all overuse sports analogies and metaphors.
18) A CEO at a start-up once asked me a single question in an interview: “Are you a winner or a loser?” I admit that I was stunned and couldn’t muster anything snappy, though I got the job. He was only 35 years old and the board of directors insisted he “retire” a few months later.
19) It’s very odd how provincial we all are. No matter how small the differences between two groups of people, those inevitably become the focus. I’m sure there is some evolutionary explanation for this, but my suspicion is that it will be our undoing unless we learn to move past it.
20) I have an innate ability to tell when people are lying. It’s in the eyes. Unfortunately, most people lie most of the time.
21) Before I had a baby boy, I had a very large, fast motorcycle and drove it 140 mph down 280 one early Saturday AM. I like speed a LOT.
22) One of my dreams is to design and build a house one day.
23) I read to my son every night, before bedtime, until he was 11 years old. Those were some of the best books, the best discussions and the most tender times I’ve ever experienced.
24) During the last few years, since my mom’s death, I’ve formed a much better relationship with my dad. It had nothing to do with him changing, but me becoming better at accepting him for who he is and calling him on the stuff that really bugs me. I’m sorry it took so long to get to that point.
25) When I was 14 years old, I would take my parent’s cars out and drive around town while they were busy with their jobs and clubs. They never found out, but were amazed at what a “natural” I was when they taught me to drive a year or two later.
I hope that number 26 is “I built an 18′ wooden kayak in my garage once”.